Sensational
singer, Waje who started her career with a collabo with Psquare, has
poured out her heart over her misgivings in life as a single mother,
insisting that her daughter will not make the same mistakes she made.
Waje and her daughter, Emerald
In an exclusive chat with Genevieve magazine, multi-award winning
music star, Aituaje Iruobe, popularly known as Waje, has opened up on
her misgivings in life as a single mother, stressing that her daughter,
Emerald, will not make the same mistakes she made by being put in the
family way outside wedlock.
The mother of one, said, “I’m a mother but I know where to draw
the line. It is because I don’t want her to make the same mistakes I
made. I feel like some of the decisions I made was because I was raised
differently.
“Our parents taught us what they knew as the truth, but what
you know as the truth might not be the truth. Another thing is that
parents do not tell their children why certain behaviours should be
avoided.
“For example, parents say, “don’t drink because I said so” not,
“don’t drink because it is bad for your health”; but I’m learning that
for the children of this age, you have to tell them all the reasons why
they should not do certain things.
“While my daughter was growing up, I took up the reward method;
you do good, you get good. There was a consequence for every action,” she said.
Waje and her daughter
Waje, whose daughter recently turned 17 continued, “There were
many times I really prayed that The One will quicken his steps to make
things easier. It did get too much when it is time to pay rent, school
fees, and other miscellaneous expenses.
“I had my own share of pillow cries and made sure she doesn’t
see it. Sometimes she could come asking, “Why didn’t you and my Dad stay
together?” And, when I first moved to Lagos, I couldn’t afford to have
my daughter with me because I didn’t have a house; I was squatting with
someone. There was a time I saw her like twice a year.
“There were times she cried, mummy I want to come and live with
you, but I couldn’t afford it till 2011. Yet looking at my daughter, I
will be honest that she is a blessing.
“And the blessing outweighs the challenges. I have learnt to be
patient, more accommodating and to pay attention to details as a mom. I
have also learnt to map out my priorities, because there are some
things I simply cannot do as a mom."
The sensational singer noted that her baby-daddy wasn’t ready at the time she took in. According to her, “I
was young. He was young. Our relationship now is very cordial. We
respect each other. He has not always been a part of my daughter’s life
until recently.
“He met her last year. When she was quite young he showed
interest but my fear was that he won’t be consistent. I didn’t want a
situation where he would come in this year and leave the next. So I had
to wait till I was sure that he would be there,” she added.
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